Why is no one talking about the other side of healing? Or am I not just hearing people talking about it?
There are a lot of sides of healing that are mostly not seen nor being talked about by people, and that is relapses and crying.
Healing is not just going to different places to be happy or talking with your loved ones. Not just fixing things with some people or having closure with the people from your past. Relapses and crying are also part of it. It is the unseen side of it.
Healing involves so much random crying. Crying over the smallest things, especially if you have become already comfortable with your pain, and make it your comfort zone.
It requires crying a lot. Healing will make you cry a lot, especially if you start embracing your struggles and pain. It will make you cry a lot when you realize how much crying you undergo just to keep going.
You will cry a lot when you start facing your pain and tears. You cry even in the most unexpected place and time. You can be happy and still cry. You will cry and cry. It is a never-ending cycle of random crying.
Relapses will also hit you hard in the middle of healing. It will hit you so hard. You can be happy for days and even months, but relapses will always hit in the middle of healing.
Sometimes, you think that you’re finally healed and getting better with your life, but then suddenly, relapses will hit you.
Relapses are hard especially when you’re in the middle of your healing. Just like when you thought that you would be clean again because you were healing but then suddenly, you go back to that again. You just suddenly find yourself again, cutting. That’s an example of relapse.
But always remember too, that it is just part of healing. Not because you relapsed and cried doesn’t mean you went back to zero. Healing is not linear. Your process is still a process.
Cry and cry. Crying cleanses our soul. It is another form of self-sooth. Feel all the pain. Embrace it. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Let all the tears and pain out. Don’t hold back your tears. With every drop, it brings you closer to healing.
Healing often requires vulnerability. It means allowing yourself to be seen, even in your most vulnerable moments. It means sharing your struggles with trusted friends, family, or a therapist. It means letting go of the need to be perfect and embracing your imperfections. Vulnerability can be scary, but it’s also incredibly liberating.
Healing is a long and winding road, but it’s a journey worth taking. It’s a journey of self-discovery, growth, and resilience. It’s a journey that will lead you to a deeper understanding of yourself and a greater sense of peace and well-being.
